Ahh! I hate hearing that. I hate hearing that a man has cheated on his wife (or partner) and then to follow it up, I hate hearing that it was not expected. That no one would have ever seen it coming. I just, it's not that I don't BELIEVE the people saying it. I'm sure they 100% believe what they are saying. That's not why I hate it. I hate it because if they are right, if you NEVER would have predicted he would do something like that then ack! That terrifies me for my future.
I do not sit around worried that someone will cheat on me. I really don't. But when I hear that it's happened to someone it just rips me up inside. I feel awful for them, for everyone affected. I ponder how I'd feel and I just. ugh. Knowing that I would never marry "the type" who would cheat. I know I'd be marrying the "he's not the type" guy so of course, there must always be a chance.
I know what my thoughts are on men who cheat. I have a pretty good idea of how I'd feel if I was cheated on (ripped into pieces). I am pretty sure that I wouldn't tolerate it though even though it hurts to walk away. But, who knows really? You can't say for sure until you're in that position. But removing from the picture the whole What I'd do part (rip his testicles off maybe?), leave or stay, and taking out what I think about cheaters and why they cheat and all that. Stripping it down to just how I'd feel. I have a pretty good idea as to how torn up I'd feel. How distraught. How hurt and angry and broken I'd feel. And so it scares me to think that someone I love could potentially cheat on me and then we'd all be looking back on it going "He's just not the type".
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Ugh. It's hard to think of it in that light, and I can see why it bugs you.
I think you just need to find someone who has the same morals and beliefs as you do.
And you need to WORK at the relationship to keep it vital and strong. That's why Matthew and I go on regular date nights - we want to not just love the other person, but LIKE them...and keep us happy TOGETHER. :)
Angella, you're so right! And coming from someone who is actually married it definitely validates what I've always sort of thought. My boyfriend and I have talked about why people cheat and what it means to us and how you have to keep working at the relationship and realize when something isn't working for you and find a way to work it out (run on sentence much? lol). I feel like the two of us are on the same page which is great. So I feel like I can maybe say "he's not the type" but oi, when I hear people say that about someone who has cheated I just feel....a bit defeated before I even get going! lol.
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