New Motto

I read a LOT of blogs. Okay, maybe not that many. But so many of them are written by women who are married with young kids or well, at least one kid usually or about to have a kid. Recently, I added a few bloggers to my "must read" list who are actually single (ie: dating, not married, and no children). I had a few of these in my list before but now I have more and it is lovely.

One such blogger is Sarah from He Loves Me Not.

My new motto will be:

"I wasn't going to fight for someone that isn't confident in wanting me."

Go over there and read where that came from.

That, for me, was a light bulb moment. Now, I'm not going through that right now. It's been two months since my last relationship ended. A relationship that lasted 16 months. A relationship where I thought we would get married because we loved each other that much. Except, due to issues he has had for 18 years he does not see himself ever being married. So, suddenly I was launched back into the single and looking world. Fine. It's been two months and I'm not quite ready to date yet but each day I feel a bit better about it. I'm not as terrified. The idea of dating doesn't make me sick to the stomach. I'm not so worried that the first time I kiss a new guy, that I will start crying. This was a solid concern of mine for much of the last 8 weeks. It's tough when you didn't think you'd EVER be in that position again. So, really, I found Sarah's blog at just the right moment in my life I think (I started reading her blog about a month before the break up).

So, as I ready myself for this whole dating and meeting guys thing...this is a good light bulb moment. I will not be fighting for a guy that isn't confident in wanting me. That will now be my mantra.

Other mantra: no dating guys who can't, within the first few dates, tell me whether marriage and babies are something they want. They HAVE to say it is something they want. Not just nod their head when I say it is something I want. That didn't work out too well for me last time. Just saying (see: 16 months, ugh).

Anyway, that is all.